The woman of his dreams isnt me... what to think?

I would be bothered and feeling hurt if my husband said that.. It's ok for a guy. even a married guy to look at that extra gorgeous looking woman who just walked past.. that's human nature, as long as he only looks I would definitely let him.. I have seen great looking guys.. and I might look also but that is not the same as actually talking about other women and how great they look.. I would then want to know and want to discuss with him.. what he sees in ''us'' as a couple. What the marriage means to him. How important I was to him as his soulmate and his life partner.. If he is happy in this relationship and if not I would want to be told the truth.. I would want to know since when.. (if) something changed.. and if we can work on it together, if we can talk it over... if we can get marriage councelling. .. if he wanted to save the marriage.. and if the love was still there and this is just a ''fantasy of his, then I believe it might be a sign that both of you need to talk more to each other.. and perhaps the point has come in your marriage, which it can happen easily in many marriages.. after so much time, one takes each other for granted.. (that should never happen) then you both have to work together by sharing your hopes, dreams and talk and to let him into your life.. let him know what you feel or think.. and vice versa, he should feel that it's ok to perhaps look at other women.. but that's where it has to remain.. to look is ok but to take it a step farther.. is betrayal.. and a marriage without mutual respect, trust and honesty is no marriage.. so I believ you are not too sensitive, I would feel the same and I would want to sit down with him and discuss this.. and hopefully find a solution to get the marriage back to working again.. xx There are ups and downs along the way for sure.. It takes a lot more work to keep a marriage going than to find someone...and true it's normally never ones first love but then again everybody who gets married does so with the intention that this lasts a lifetime.. We have seen time and time again that ''good intentions '' just aren't enough judging by the divorce rate.. It takes 2 to tango and 2 to make a marriage work...